How do I demonstrate thoughtfulness and consideration?



I am thoughtful, considerate and calm in my dealings with others.



Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.

Philippians 4:5


Gentleness - it means - strength held under control

you don’t have to tell a weak person to be gentle.  They cannot do otherwise - it takes a strong person to be gentle!


Psa 103:10-17  He has not dealt with us according to our sins, Nor punished us according to our iniquities.  For as the heavens are high above the earth, So great is His mercy toward those who fear Him; As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us.  

  • “those who fear Him” - does not mean they are afraid of Him - they hold Him in esteem and awe.  They are choosing to return to His will and way - but they have mad mistakes
  • In the midst of our sins the Lord is FORGIVING - and FORGETTING God


As a father pities his children, So the LORD pities those who fear Him.  For He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust.  

  • Our God is AWARE of our weakness and our difficulty.  
  • He is mindful of His glory and our brokenness
  • God sees not only our mistakes but the reasons - the wounds - the weakness - that lead to our failures


Matt 11: 28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

  • This is a picture of two oxen in a yoke - 
    • an older, stronger, wiser one - and a younger, weaker, untrained one.  
    • the older sets the pace and carries the load - 
      • so the younger doesn’t wear himself out before the job is done
  • The Lord Jesus teaches us His way by calling us to PARTNER - to apprentice
    • The Lord Jesus does not stand over us with a balled fist to threaten us into motion
    • He leads by example and by patient endurance of our foolishness
  • He calls us to rely upon His gentleness and patience
  • Following Jesus IS rest.


Isaiah 42:3 - 3"A bruised reed He will not break And a dimly burning wick He will not extinguish; He will faithfully bring forth justice.

  • He doesn’t count our weakness, our brokenness, or our damage against us
  • He heals the broken
  • He reignites the flickering flame


So what does it mean for US to reflect Jesus Gentleness to the world?

  • We cannot have the clenched fist
    • toward’s others
      • We cannot use FORCE - of words - of guilt - threat - or shame to move people toward the way of Jesus
      • we have to do what God does
        • draw them close - relationship - partnership - friendship
        • tell the truth - honesty - 
        • be an example
        • show them love
        • be patient 
    • towards ourselves
      • fear, shame, condemnation are NOT ways to change - 
        • they will change us for a minute but they will not change us forever AND they warp us in the midst of the change
          • would you break your back so you can touch your toes?
      • draw close to Jesus
      • accept His grace
      • rely on His help
      • live in hope